Ep. 5 | I Forgot to Have Kids!!

Written By Sarah Bettman

In the world of living stoked and leading stoked, we often delve into the complexities of personal and professional growth, exploring the intricacies of life's various journeys. Today, we'll discuss the multifaceted dynamics of parenthood and caregiving - a deeply personal and meaningful subject that intersects with our roles as individuals, leaders, and members of a larger community.

Forgetting to Have Kids

In a candid discussion, I share my personal experience of navigating the question "Do you have kids?" with an unconventional response - "I forgot to have them." This humorous yet thought-provoking remark opens the door to a deeper conversation about the complex emotions and decisions surrounding parenthood and the societal expectations associated with it.

Unraveling the Complexity of Parenthood

My journey sheds light on the intricate layers of my own desire for children, the challenges I faced in my relationships, and the societal norms and pressures surrounding the idea of parenting. I hope that my openness in discussing the struggle between personal longing and logical reasoning will showcase the internal conflict many individuals experience on their path to defining their own fulfillment and purpose.

The Evolution of Perspective

During my story, I share the pivotal moments in my life that led to a shift in perspective. From reevaluating the expectations and norms imposed by society to finding solace in my decision to not have kids, yet adoring the connections I have with my niece and nephew, I hope to exemplify the path to redefining the meaning of parenthood and nurturing meaningful relationships beyond the traditional constructs.

Cultural and Corporate Impacts

There are also broader cultural and corporate impacts of parenthood and caregiving. The insights into the evolving landscape of parental leave, bereavement policies, and the inclusive recognition of diverse caregiving responsibilities offer an illuminating view of the intersections between personal lives and professional environments. The emphasis on creating spaces that honor and support individuals navigating caregiving responsibilities showcases the fundamental principles of leading stoked – fostering a culture of empathy, understanding, and inclusivity.

Navigating the Complexities of Caregiving

My discussion in this episode culminates in a heartfelt reflection on the multifaceted nature of caregiving, extending beyond traditional parenting roles to encompass the care of aging parents and beloved pets. My witnessing my mother's battle with Alzheimer's serves as a poignant reminder of the weight that accompanies caregiving and the importance of providing support and understanding in these deeply emotional and often challenging circumstances.

Living Stoked and Leading Stoked

As I talk through my experiences, it’s a reminder of Live Stoked, Lead Stoked. Embracing the complexities of personal narratives, fostering open and honest conversations, and creating spaces where individuals feel empowered to share their stories and seek support are key priorities in living stoked and leading stoked.

I invite you to engage in introspection, empathize with diverse experiences, and acknowledge the profound impact of caregiving on our lives. It encourages us to cultivate environments where individuals feel seen, heard, and supported as they navigate the intricate paths of parenthood and caregiving. Ultimately, it highlights the significance of crafting a tapestry of understanding, compassion, and inclusivity as we navigate the multifaceted dynamics of life.

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More About Live Stoked | Lead Stoked

Have you ever wondered if there is something more? Are you ready for something to change, but aren’t sure how to get started…or even what to change? Do you dream of living life on your own terms, full of purpose and the ability to choose what’s best for you? Are you ready to live stoked?

You’ve come to the right place! In this podcast, we will explore what it means to live stoked. To live a life on your terms, one where we’ve tossed away the pressures of roles, expectations, and identities that have been put on you and that you did not choose, is a bold choice. Frankly, it’s a series of small choices in micro-moments that lead to a bold life.

I am Sarah Bettman, coach, consultant, and speaker, but more importantly, I’m a person who found myself waking up in the wrong life and needed to find a way to me. 

I am on a mission to unravel the things we tell ourselves, the roles and/or identities we’ve taken on, and the expectations that drive our decision making, so that we can begin to live our most authentic and stoked lives. My guests and I will share our stories, solutions, and multitude of ideas…since one size definitely doesn’t not fit all. 

My hope is that you will find something meaningful for you, in the moment, that will move you forward on your path.

Sarah Bettman
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